My family has moved away: should I stay or should I go?

My family has moved away: should I stay or should I go?

A reality of being a parent in Australia is that your adult children may want to chase opportunities well beyond the social and community hub you’ve raised them in.

You’re likely to have built long term friendships and connections that enrich your days. You would be rightly reluctant to pack up and leave your social life behind to be closer to family.

If the desire to stay actively involved in your family’s lives by moving to be close to them is an ongoing distraction, what lifestyle choices can you make to ensure that you enjoy active and social later years?

Should you stay or should you move to be closer to family?

Many senior parents are left with the quandary of either choosing to move to be closer to their children but away from beloved friends, or to stay put but feel somewhat removed from their children’s lives.

Choosing to move to be closer to your family poses a number of dilemmas. If you have more than one adult child, which of your family do you choose to live closer to? If you choose to move away from your beloved social and community ties, are you going to feel socially isolated? If you stay put, what might you be missing out on?

Fortunately, because there are so many Australians facing this same dilemma, there are many seniors eager to make new social connections while being actively involved in their children and grandchildren’s lives.

A retirement village lifestyle could be the solution you’re looking for

Moving to a retirement village situated close to family could provide you with the solution you’re looking for. Retirement village living offers:

  • An instant social hub for your taking – a community of people that share your lifestyle choice.

  • A low maintenance lifestyle that gives you more time for family, friends and holidays.

  • An address from where it is easy to access all the services you need, and easy for friends and family to visit.

  • Daily access to resort like shared facilities such as indoor swimming pools, gymnasiums, libraries, sporting activities, formal and informal social groups, community buses and recreational facilities.

  • A secure home base designed so that you can age in place while being as active and independent as you choose to be.

  • Reassurance for your family (and you) as you move into your later, later years that you have people around you, ‘age in place’ design to minimise mobility risks, security including well lit exterior spaces and support such as 24 hour, seven day a week emergency call systems in place.

A retirement village lifestyle is a ‘choose your own adventure’ option

Retirement village living offers an independent, ‘choose your own adventure’ type of lifestyle.

Think back to the last time you enjoyed a holiday in resort style accommodation, or a cruise. You would have chosen which activities or facilities you wanted to enjoy using throughout your holiday. In a resort, or on a cruise, it is completely up to you as to how social or how active you feel like being at any one moment in your day. You have choices. Retirement village living offers resort style choices every day. It is all up to you as to how you choose to make the most of what is on offer.

RCA Villages’ management team members Andrew Philip, Managing Director and Pat Hems – a Lifetime Member of the Retirement Village Association – shared their observations about RCA Villages’ residents that have moved in to be closer to family, and have gained so much more.

“One of the more common reflections from residents who have moved into our villages initially because of the close proximity to their family, is that they just wished they had moved in sooner,” said Pat.

Retirement village living also offers a secure home base where residents that have moved to be closer to family, take off for weeks at a time in their caravans or motor homes to go and visit other family and friends that they may have moved away from. It’s a flexible, independent lifestyle that gives residents lots of choice.
— Pat Hems, RCA Villages

How to find out more about retirement village living in Victoria

At RCA Villages, we pride ourselves on being an informative source of information on retirement village living.

The management team have brought together collective decades of retirement village experience across Victoria and have compiled an independent guide to answer questions about retirement village living in Victoria.

Download your own free copy of Retirement Villages in Victoria Frequently Asked Questions.

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Come and tour an RCA Village

The most efficient way to find out about retirement village living is to book in a tour of one of our villages situated closest to the area you are considering moving to.

We encourage prospective residents to come in and have a look at our villages. We then tell them to go away and have a look at other villages to compare what is on offer. We want our residents to make informed decisions about the rest of their lives.
— Andrew Philip, RCA Villages

Visit one of our RCA Villages websites below to book in your personal, obligation free tour. Did you know that by simply putting a pin on one of our village maps, you can secure your new lifestyle obligation free in the available villa or apartment that captured your imagination?

RCA Villages

Wyndham Grange Village in Tarneit

Main St Village Pakenham

Cardinia Waters Village in Pakenham

Martha Cove Village in Safety Beach

Beleura Village in Mornington

Point Cook Village in Point Cook


If you are interested in exploring the possibility of a move to a modern retirement village around Melbourne. Booking a tour at one of the RCA Villages around Melbourne can be a great place to start. Visit the website of the village in the region you would like to visit for contact details.

South East Melbourne

Mornington Peninsula

Western Melbourne 

Ask about RCA Villages no deposit reservation process on new villas.

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